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It may make you wince, but when your kindergartner boasts "My mom's smarter than your mom!" it's nothing to worry about. In fact, it's perfectly normal behavior for a child this age. It stems in part from her relative egocentrism — she still has trouble seeing through other's eyes — and in part from the fact that she's working to find out exactly what kind of influence she has in the world. A kindergartner's distorted, inflated sense of self and what she can do (cook dinner, paint the garage!) is healthy; she's learning that she can make things happen, and her confidence is soaring.
When you hear your child put herself on top ("I can read better than you can!"), don't lecture her. Instead, help her develop the ability to see others' perspectives, to learn to cooperate, and to be kind. So instead of telling her, "You're not better than anybody else," for instance, help her focus on the consequences of her behavior. Ask her, "How do you think Jenny feels now?" and "Why do you think she feels this way?" With just a little prompting, most kindergartners can adopt a buddy's perspective.
You can also teach your kindergartner by example. If she hears one of your friends telling you how well her son is doing with piano lessons, be supportive rather than jumping in to point out your own child's artistic talents. Later, when you and your kindergartner are alone, talk about the exchange. "Did you hear what Susan said about Stewart? I didn't want to hurt her feelings by saying 'My daughter's even further ahead than that!' so I just listened and showed her that I was happy for her."
As your kindergartner matures, she'll naturally gain a more realistic view of herself and be better able to take on others' perspectives, too. In the meantime, guide her by being a good role model and by pointing out her friends' feelings when she boasts.